Thursday, January 3, 2013

Feeling Blue in Odeessa

I've been working on my book and blog and website, and Google ranking for the better part of 10 months now, and I have been trapped in what I would call "limbo" for the better part of the past two months. I have a wonderfully generous friend who has helped me design my website in order to make it Google friendly, but he won't help me do the last little bit I need to do in order to get my website to the number one position.

I could move back into a cheap apartment in Cheriomoshki or Tairovo and use the extra money I save on SEO, but that doesn't make sense since I can have private clients in my nice flat, and my flat is centrally located, and my clientele of private clients as well as foreigners stay in the center. So, the money I save will not be nearly as much as you think it is because of time, effort, energy, taxi's and restaurants I would spend that saved money on travel expenses or lose it becaue of missed opportunity if I lived in a less expensive flat. 

Also, my mental well-being would be affected as well. I hated living in a shoe box in Cheriomoshki for two and a half years. Cheriomoshki is a neighborhood of Odessa Ukraine. \

I thought this whole ordeal, and every event was me looking for, or helping others look for, find, and keep their own Ukrainian girl, but the reality is that this whole ordeal is about me creating a life I love, and in this moment in time, I do not love my life.

The last two days, my left arm and leg have been numb. This really makes me nervous as I am aware of the myriad of back problems I have. The nerve running down my spine is compressed and if this compression beomces words it is very possible that I could become paralized in the near future. I thought I had a few years before I would have to be leary of paralysis, but the reality is that this end result might come much sooner and I am depressed about all of this. What woman would want to marry me if I become paralized?

I cannot imagine being stuck in Ukraine without money, and not being able to move.

I know that I have so many things to be grateful for, but those things are easily forgotten when I have so many other things weighing on my mind.


  1. Hi Vincent, sorry to hear about the health scare. I hope that you're feeling much better now!

    In "Emptying Out Ukrainian Christmas", you brought up a situation that many of us expats are caught in- abroad you have more selling points but perhaps less opportunity (esp financial) while back home life is easy and understood but you lose access to unique opportunities and your skills no longer set you apart from the crowd. Deciding to stay or go is not an easy choice to make. It sounds like your heart is set on staying and developing your business further, though, so don't give up! It does take a long time but you're working hard and really putting your passion into it. I wish you tons and tons of success this year!

  2. Hello mate,

    I'm thinking of moving to Odessa in 2014 and have been frantically looking for some expats living there.

    Sorry for trespassing on your blog's space with my personal question, but would you mind if I asked you some questions about Odessa?

    My email's

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